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Posted by on Jun 25, 2012 in Blog, Monday Musing | 12 comments

Equilibrium: the condition of a system in which competing influences are balanced.

Achieving a sense of balance is not easy. Just defining balance is difficult. In science and mathematics, we tend to view balance as a weighing out, a measuring, a calculation – as in using physics to determine weight.

In our personal lives, we may view the balance as the remainder, the weighing, the tally – like in our checkbook.

Balance also has to do with steadiness, equilibrium, stability, poise.

Balance also means to juggle between the personal and professional aspects of our lives.

For some of us, the hardest day to day balancing that we do involves our inner peace. It’s often in this arena that balance most likely resembles a game of tug-a-war. We are undecided. Conflicted.  Overwhelmed. We become impatient with ourselves, our family, our friends and co-workers. We get angry, aggravated, and annoyed. We are discontented, dissatisfied, disappointed. We have lost our sense of inner balance.

When we are “out of balance” we do not have the inner peace that we need to achieve the things that we want to achieve. We are indecisive, emotional, and distracted. We fall prey to our own loss of control. This often results not only in lack of productivity, but destructive chaos. We become immobilized, powerless, and ineffective. The daily “to do” lists hover over us like a lead balloon. Piles of work, laundry, dirty dishes taunt us. We are prone to giving in to laziness, unhealthy habits, depression. Often these prolonged feelings of helplessness and powerlessness create in us a sense of fear to move forward.

Balance is just as vital to our sense of well being as it is our checkbook, our physics problem, our teeter-totter. Below are 7 ways to bring some inner peace to your life:

  • Eat Well – there are many viewpoints on diet and nutrition, but they all have a common thread running through them: eat well and you will feel well. Most of these common elements emphasize eating whole grains, meat, poultry, fish, nuts and eggs, dairy, fruits and vegetables and staying clear of processed and fried foods.
  • Exercise – most experts agree that we need to exercise vigorously 4 or 5 times a week for at least 30 minutes. Exercise increases blood flow, which is vital for the proper operation of our organs and body systems.

  • Rest – studies still tout the 8 or more hours of sleep every night. This is necessary for proper brain function as well as to replenish our body with the relaxation it needs. Try to go to bed and get up at the same times each day.
  • Relax – aside from the sleep that our physical bodies need to function properly, our minds need the relaxation provided by meditation, reflection, and prayer. You may do this sitting on a beach staring at the sunset, practicing the ancient arts of yoga and tai chi, or reading a book, listening to music, or painting a picture.

  • Rethink your life – what are your dreams and goals? Your vision for your life? Have they changed? Are you clinging to past ideas and values? As we grow, we change and often those ideals we established in the past no longer are applicable. It’s okay to reevaluate, reassess and redesign. Get rid of the clutter – physical, mental and emotional. Hold on to the dreams and goals that are still true, but discard the ones that act as roadblocks to your forward moving progress.
  • Visualize your success – Make positive choices. That includes choosing to be around people who are positive. Don’t let discouraging people or distractions knock you out of balance.
  • Develop an attitude of peace – Think positive thoughts – courage, hope, health, peace. Surround yourself with positive, encouraging, loving and supportive people. Try to see the other side – the good stuff – the way up and out. Count your blessings. Practice thankfulness. Laugh. Smile. Breathe.




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Posted by on Apr 30, 2012 in Blog, The Power of "P" | 14 comments

Passion plays a vital role in our lives. It invigorates us, inspires us, and identifies our goals.

Passion has been defined as a powerful emotion, a boundless enthusiasm, excitement, fervor, fire, zeal, and a boundless intensity. For centuries artists, authors, and lovers have attempted to define, diffuse, and display it. Most of us can agree on one thing – it is a driving motivation, often uncontrollable, uncontainable, and unmanageable.

Love. Fall in love and stay in love. Write only what you love, and love what you write. The key word is love. You have to get up in the morning and write something you love, something to live for.  

Ray Bradbury

You have to find your passion, and then follow it. Listen to your heart.

  • Find a quiet place to slow down, relax, meditate
  • Listen to your heart, focus on what touches you, excites you, inspires you
  • Explore those things that interest you, drive you, stimulate you
  • Think about those things that you like to do, talk about, think about
  • Recall the dreams and the desires of your youth
  • Make a list of 5 things that you want
  • Make a list of 5 things you would do if you knew you couldn’t fail
  • Make a list of 5 things you are good at
  • What would you do to make a better life for yourself, for others
  • What would you regret never having done, accomplished

What are the things that you can’t get out of your head? The ones that nag at you? Creep up into your subconscious and demand to be heard, recognized, and validated?

Ponder these things. Examine and explore your possibilities. Find your driving force. Your purpose. Your passion. Then go for it!

By believing passionately in something that still does not exist, we create it. The nonexistent is whatever we have not sufficiently desired.

Nikos Kazantzakis (1885-1957) Greek writer

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