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On Writing


Posted by on Aug 27, 2012 in Blog, Monday Musing, On Writing | 10 comments

I was nominated for THE LIEBSTER BLOG AWARD by the very talented “DLKoontz”.


According to my research on THE LIEBSTER BLOG AWARD, it is given to “up and coming bloggers.” (With followers numbering from less than 200 to 3000 – that part was hard to decipher!) Bottom line is “Liebster” is German for “favorite”. This award is the “favorite blog award” . I am honored! Thank you, DL!

The rules for this award state that you must answer the 11 questions asked of you by the Blogger who gave you this award. Then you have to list 11 random things about yourself. And finally, choose 11 of your own Leibster bloggers to whom to pass the torch with 11 of your own questions.



1.  If money were no object, where in the world would you live? (Be specific!)

This is a difficult question because on any given day, I want to live any number of places. But if I had to say, today (and most days) I would choose to live on the Hawaiian island of Maui – Lahaina to be specific.

2.  What is your favorite color?

Black. Always has been black – much to my mother’s disappointment as she wanted a girlie girl in love with pink!

3.  What household chore have you been ignoring the most and why?

Inside – cleaning out the cupboards and closets. Why? Because I need to unload stuff and it is so hard to decide what I will never again need/want.

Outside – weeding. Why? Because it never ends!

4.  If you could return to age 20 again, what would you do differently for your future?

Wow, the questions aren’t getting any easier. Believe it or not I am not a fan of Frank’s “My Way “and the no regrets phraseology. Although as a psychologist, I believe that regrets are a stressor we do not need because we cannot go back, I often think of what I would have done differently. Yet, I know that it has to be an “if I knew then what I know now” approach – because that kid would have more than likely taken the same path. Shorter answer stayed the course and not allowed other people dictate what I should be doing. I would have stayed in law school.

5.  Do you play a musical instrument? (If not, what hobby do you enjoy most?)

I do. I play piano and saxophone.

6.  What is your all-time favorite book? (Bible and cookbooks do not count)

Yikes! This is a much harder choice than where to live. But since I have to choose just one – I will – The Giver by Lois Lowry.

7.  What is the most wonderful unexpected moment you’ve ever had?

Just one? Living post cancer.

8.  Mountains or Ocean?

Maui – I get both!

9.  If you had to be stuck in a hospital bed for three months, and so did another…who would you want in the next bed?

Lucille Ball – because laughter is the best medicine!

10. If you could have lived any time in history, when would you have wished to live (assuming good health)?

Though this is not an easy time in many ways, I don’t think that I would choose to live at any time in the past. I love history and although many eras seem exciting, desirable and romantic, I appreciate the bounty of the struggles that my ancestors endured so that I can enjoy the freedoms, health, and opportunities that I have in this age.

11. If your house were on fire, what one possession would you grab on your way out?

Any living being in my sight! If I am alone, this computer.



1.  I love the ocean. One of my favorite childhood memories is seeing the ocean for the first time. Rockaway Beach. New York. First “slice”. First spumoni Italian Ice.

2.  I value honesty in a relationship above all else. Love and all those other emotions are wonderful – but a great bond is built on a solid foundation of truth.

3.  I have an addiction to television. I attribute this to my mother leaving me in front of the TV in my playpen to be entertained by Howdy Dowdy, Roy Rogers, and Lassie.

4.  My best vacation was traveling through France and Italy with my mother

5.  From a very early age I have had a love affair with cats. Up until this past March, I was never without one in my life.

6.  I love research and learning new things.

7.  I am fascinated by hummingbirds. They are the tiniest, fastest, most specific creatures.

8.  I love Body Combat, the Les Mills mixed marital arts cardio training.

9.  When I was little, I wanted to pitch for the Cincinnati Reds. I would still like a try-out!

10. I skipped Kindergarten. I entered first grade at age 5 and have been playing catch-up ever since.

11. Every now and again, I remind myself that my life is a miracle and I am grateful for every breath I take!



1.   Joyce Meyer Hostetter

2.  Joan York Edwards 

3.   Roxie Hanna

4.   Stacy Cacciatore  

5.   Christine Fonseca

6.   Laurel Snyder

7.   Maureen Wartski

8.   Linda Martin Anderson

9.   Carol Baldwin

10. Kristina McBride Purnhagen

11. Keiki Hendrix


1.  If you were on death row, what would be your “Last Meal” menu?

2.  What is your greatest fear?

3.  You are packing for a 6 month tour in space – who is in your backpack?

4.  What is your favorite time of year and why?

5.  If you could relive any year of your life – which one would it be and why?

6.  What is the one word your friends would use to describe you?

7.  Beatles or Elvis?

8.  What’s your favorite guilty pleasure?

9.  Imagine you were president, what legislation would you most want congress to pass?

10. Dogs or cats?

11. What would be the title song of your life?

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Why I Write

Posted by on May 21, 2012 in Blog, On Writing, Writing Wednesday | 6 comments

“For some of us, books are as important as almost anything else on earth. What a miracle it is that out of these small, flat, rigid squares of paper unfolds world after world after world, worlds that sing to you, comfort and quiet or excite you. Books help us understand who we are and how we are to behave. They show us what community and friendship mean; they show us how to live and die.”
Anne Lamott, Bird by Bird: Some Instructions on Writing and Life

Writing is my powerful passion, my prevailing purpose, my prominent path. It gives my life meaning.    It brings me fantastical joy. My creative veins pulse every time I see a fascinating figure, a shivering shadow, an unexplored universe.

I write because I have to. There are worlds of players inside my head, exploding with dreams, desires, and daring adventures. They are storming the stockade, entering the empire, and announcing their arrival. They are waiting to tell their story.

I write for many of the same reasons for which I read. Communication. Connection. Camaraderie.

Books shaped my life. From the moment that I could hold a book with both hands, I read. Oh, I might not have understood the words exactly – but my imagination painted a picture of the things that my mind did not comprehend.

I fell in love with story. And characters. And plot. I hungered for adventure and excitement and experience.

Why do you write? Are there characters dancing around in your head waiting to tell their stories? I would love to hear from you.

Helen S. writes: “I write to know myself. I write because I can. I write to record truths, to imagine worlds, to persuade people, to make them think. I write because it’s an art form. Even as a child, writing played an important role. I set up an office in my closet, pulled in a small chair, desk, and lamp and graced the desktop with a typewriter. The blank paper intimidated me, but I pecked away at the keys and recorded a few thoughts. It was a tableau I’d create again and again…”


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