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Posted by on Jun 25, 2012 in Blog, Monday Musing | 12 comments

Equilibrium: the condition of a system in which competing influences are balanced.

Achieving a sense of balance is not easy. Just defining balance is difficult. In science and mathematics, we tend to view balance as a weighing out, a measuring, a calculation – as in using physics to determine weight.

In our personal lives, we may view the balance as the remainder, the weighing, the tally – like in our checkbook.

Balance also has to do with steadiness, equilibrium, stability, poise.

Balance also means to juggle between the personal and professional aspects of our lives.

For some of us, the hardest day to day balancing that we do involves our inner peace. It’s often in this arena that balance most likely resembles a game of tug-a-war. We are undecided. Conflicted.  Overwhelmed. We become impatient with ourselves, our family, our friends and co-workers. We get angry, aggravated, and annoyed. We are discontented, dissatisfied, disappointed. We have lost our sense of inner balance.

When we are “out of balance” we do not have the inner peace that we need to achieve the things that we want to achieve. We are indecisive, emotional, and distracted. We fall prey to our own loss of control. This often results not only in lack of productivity, but destructive chaos. We become immobilized, powerless, and ineffective. The daily “to do” lists hover over us like a lead balloon. Piles of work, laundry, dirty dishes taunt us. We are prone to giving in to laziness, unhealthy habits, depression. Often these prolonged feelings of helplessness and powerlessness create in us a sense of fear to move forward.

Balance is just as vital to our sense of well being as it is our checkbook, our physics problem, our teeter-totter. Below are 7 ways to bring some inner peace to your life:

  • Eat Well – there are many viewpoints on diet and nutrition, but they all have a common thread running through them: eat well and you will feel well. Most of these common elements emphasize eating whole grains, meat, poultry, fish, nuts and eggs, dairy, fruits and vegetables and staying clear of processed and fried foods.
  • Exercise – most experts agree that we need to exercise vigorously 4 or 5 times a week for at least 30 minutes. Exercise increases blood flow, which is vital for the proper operation of our organs and body systems.

  • Rest – studies still tout the 8 or more hours of sleep every night. This is necessary for proper brain function as well as to replenish our body with the relaxation it needs. Try to go to bed and get up at the same times each day.
  • Relax – aside from the sleep that our physical bodies need to function properly, our minds need the relaxation provided by meditation, reflection, and prayer. You may do this sitting on a beach staring at the sunset, practicing the ancient arts of yoga and tai chi, or reading a book, listening to music, or painting a picture.

  • Rethink your life – what are your dreams and goals? Your vision for your life? Have they changed? Are you clinging to past ideas and values? As we grow, we change and often those ideals we established in the past no longer are applicable. It’s okay to reevaluate, reassess and redesign. Get rid of the clutter – physical, mental and emotional. Hold on to the dreams and goals that are still true, but discard the ones that act as roadblocks to your forward moving progress.
  • Visualize your success – Make positive choices. That includes choosing to be around people who are positive. Don’t let discouraging people or distractions knock you out of balance.
  • Develop an attitude of peace – Think positive thoughts – courage, hope, health, peace. Surround yourself with positive, encouraging, loving and supportive people. Try to see the other side – the good stuff – the way up and out. Count your blessings. Practice thankfulness. Laugh. Smile. Breathe.





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  1. Joan Y. Edwards

    Dear Ann,
    Thank you for sharing your great ideas on how to bring peace and balance to our lives. I hope you are doing well.
    Celebrate you today!
    Never Give Up
    Joan Y. Edwards

  2. Delphine Bigony

    Thanks for articulating what I am experiencing. Glad to know it’s real and can be overcomed.

  3. maureen Wartski

    How true!

    Treasure inner peace
    like a precious diamond
    rare and much needed!

  4. Claire

    Ann – What a wonderful lesson. You and Joan are obviously soul mates when it comes to inner peace. The two of you need to put an exercise together for the rest of us.

    Thanks for the reminder – though we all seem to know, or have heard or read similar suggestions, it is just so hard to remember them when we most need to remember these crucial hints in life – when we need them the most.

    So, again, I thank you – it was a delight and an uplifiting moment, being allowed to remember, to do these things for myself.

    Love ya!

  5. Debra Koontz Traverso

    I love this piece on balance. Favorite line…and a great line because it helps me compare a practical everyday activity: “In our personal lives, we may view the balance as the remainder, the weighing, the tally – like in our checkbook.” Thanks for this.

    • Ann Eisenstein

      Debra, Thank you for your comment about my piece on balance. I love that line, too, because I often see the balance and imbalance of my own life in just that way – weighing, tallying, the remainder. And when I do, I try to even out! It ain’t easy! 😉

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